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Dear LL,
I have been in a monogamous relationship for quite some time, but last week I met an older woman whom I instantly developed an attachment. I don't want to hurt my present lover's feeling. What do you recommend? -Wanna Milk that MILF
Dear MILF seeker,
"Instantly developed an attachment". Hmm, sounds like you want to fuck her. Sorry, you can't instantly develop an attachment with someone. Oh, you can want to fuck them instantly, hell, you can even fall in love in less than five seconds (like the song says, when the moon hits your eye like a big pizza pie, that's amore). And how long have you talked to this woman? 10 minutes or 10 hours? Do you know anything about her? Is she in a relationship? Is she a player?
You have to slow down! Now, I'm not saying forget about her, I'm not saying don't see her again, hell, I'm not even saying don't finger her pussy in the bathroom of the bar you will meet her in to talk about her views on retirement plans. What I'm saying is that you can't think that you are in love just because you met a hottie. And second, don't fuck up your relationship just because you met someone you want to fuck.
So, how to proceed? Before you even meet this mature lesbian again, take stock of your own relationship. Are you bored sexually with your long time partner? Do you inhabit the same space but live in separate worlds? Or do you spend a lot of time together but don't do anything romantic?
LESBO LAUNDERS CHALLENGE: Don't see the hot old girl for a week. If you want, call her up and tell her you had to go out of town or something. Take one week and do the following: spend less time with live-in lover (maybe even go on a mini-vacation, just you) and then plan a special night together. Something truly magical, not just a dinner and a movie. A walk under the stars, a small adventure, and then some mind blowing sex. Try something new. Role play. Ask her what her fantasy is and do it.
Now, take stock. Is the spark back? Do you feel a connection? If so, you have probably already forgotten about Ms. Oldy-pants. But if after all of that you are still bored, it may be time to begin to think (slowly, cautiously) about moving on. And then call up Ms. Oldy-pants for a drink.
And then there is plan B: after trying my week-long plan, invite your lesbian milf for dinner at your house, and propose a threesome (talk about this with your partner first!). You might get to live out your fantasy with this new interest, put a spark back into your relationship and not cause a break-up, all at the same time! If you are in a stable relationship, a threesome would not be too much of a threat. And send me the pics!
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