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Dear Lesbo Launders,
I am not sure how to take this. My friend and I rubbed our pussies hard till we came. I wanted more but she said her clit got too sensitive to the touch and wanted me to stop. Was she telling me the truth? -Lucky SensitiveClit, Montana US
Dear Sensitiveclit,
Being that I have no crystal ball to read into your lover's mind, it would be quite impossible for me to know if she was telling you the truth or not. But I can do my best and use my Sapphic sense to give you a few possibilities.
Let's start with the basics of anatomy: rubbing any part of the body (and especially the sensitive genitals, which are covered by a mucus membrane and not by the tough skin that covers other parts of your body) for long periods of time can cause irritation.
How much each person can sustain differs widely: pornstars probably have a higher toleration than the rest of the population. So, it's safe to say that after a long rubbing session, your lover was probably "irritated", at least down there.
Also, ask yourself: did you become overexcited by the moment and rub too hard? Did you keep the same monotonous rhythm and rub only the clit, instead of trying a little variety, like fingering or gently stroking? Lesbo Launders suggests that you bring your partner to the tip of orgasm and then switch to more gentle rubbing. This alternation not only allows the genitals to rest but it also delays the orgasm, thus making it stronger.
Now let's talk about another technique that may be just what the love doctor called for: pussy licking. Unlike manual stimulation, the soft, smooth surface of the tongue does not irritate the sensitive skin of the vulva. If you are not into oral sex, try 69 or alternating eating out your lover with rubbing. And take a tip from me, Lesbo Launders: make it a sweet experience with a dab of whipped cream or sticky honey- just be sure to use old sheets!
Another thing to consider is that your friend (unlike you) is not multi-orgamsic, or better said, didn't want more than one orgasm that day. Some women find the first orgasm to be the appetizer of a sexual meal; others feel that one orgasm is plenty! A simple way to figure this out it to ask, preferably not during a romantic moment. Now, if she says that she is a one orgasm girl, and you need a few to get off, offer to suck on her tits while you masturbate yourself. Yummy!
But I have another question for you: what do you mean by calling your lover your "friend"? Does this mean that you first had a friendship before getting down and dirty? Is she "bi-sexual"? Maybe she fantasized about a sexual experience and then repented... I personally doubt that, but maybe that is what happened.
So, to sum up, when you run into a problem in the bed, talk about it outside of it!
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