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Ms. Launders,
I am a lipstick lesbian—young, attractive, and very feminine looking. Men hit on me all the time! How do I explain to them that I am not interested? If I say that I am a real lesbian they often get REALLY turned on and think I am flirting. I don't mind talking to men. I just want them to know that they won't be getting anymore from me than that! –Too hot for boys
Dear Too hot for boys,
it's a HUGE misconception that all lesbians are butch bull dykes who run around hating men and attending feminist conscious raising sessions in the back of used bookstores where they take turns exploring their vaginas with handheld mirrors. As you can see on our site, there are many attractive lesbians who are quite girly. And men love lesbians, because they think that it is an easy way to get two girls into bed at the same time. They also want to seduce lesbians because it is a challenge—they can prove how manly they are and how much all women need cock, especially their cock. And by saying you are a lesbian, you are making a hot little package even hotter.
First things first: men hit on women all the time and get rejected by women all the time. Don't feel like you need to be nice to them or engage them in conversation or offer long explanations to them. Most women don't do this. If you don't know the guy, just lie. Say that you are in a relationship that is very happy. You don't even have to say it is with a girl or a guy, just that you aren't looking.
Steer the conversation away from anything sexual or sensual—food, music, movies. Keep it on politics, cars, sports. In other words, manly topics. Even though you dress femininely, keep the conversation masculine. Talk about computers, the military budget and weight lifting. Don't reveal personal information about yourself if you don't know the guy.
If you don't like the guy, just blow him off. Don't feel the need to give him explanations. If you are in a bar, say that you are waiting for somebody or that you don't feel like talking. And be careful about making eye contact! Men are like dogs, the more that you talk, explain or draw them in (even if is to say that you are not interested) the more they think that you are "playing" and that you want more contact with them. Like a dog, the best thing to do is keep quiet and still, and their interest will wane naturally.
Now, a question for you: are you hanging out too much in the wrong places? In other words, are you going to hetero bars, standing by the bar, sipping on your glass of white wine and looking hot? Are you really chatty? I'm not saying don't talk to men or avoid them, just that maybe you should seek out places that are more pussy-centric. This will also help you find a girl who you can then go out with, and make it more clear that you are a "lesbian, really."
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