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Dear Lesbo Launders,
my lover asked me to lick her like her former boyfriend. At first, I felt offended by her asking but then she left me thinking... Do men lick pussies in such a different way compared to women?
Dear Licklikeman,
 You shouldn't have been offended, but confused. How are you supposed to know how her former boyfriend licked her? Did she tell you in details, or are you supposed to look in your magic pussy-8 ball and see all of her sexual past? Tell your lesbian lover that a much better road to fantasy fulfilment is to give specific instructions-something that women don't find easy to do. We tend to be vague about what we want, putting the burden on the other person to figure out via trial and error.
So put this Sapphic strategy to work: the big plus about being two girls having sex together is that you show each other what you want by demonstrating directly on each other. The correct answer when your lesbo lover says to lick her like her ex-boyfriend is to say "show me how he licked you honey."
In fact, you could make a whole night out of it, dress up in school girl clothes and pretend like it is your first time and go to town. Or pretend that you are two scientists who want to discover the best technique for getting each other off: wear white lab coats, bring a magnifying glass and take notes after each oral session. I'm creaming  just imagining you two love birds doing this!
But now, the more existential question: Do men and women have different ways of eating cunt? While every person has their own technique, women are FAR superior (just as my gay friends confirm that men give better blowjobs!) because women know that the clitoris is not a "small penis" but actually much more sensitive and delicate. Most men apply too much direct pressure to the clit, which results in a strong sensation, but not that pleasurable of one. This is because a penis needs to be exposed to very strong pressure to feel pleasure (think about how tight a vagina is!) while a light but rhythmic touch is the best way to achieve a clit-based orgasm. Also, men mistake the writhing of the female body as a pleasure response, instead of seeing it for what it is: the body's way of screaming "lighten up!" This makes them go even harder, thinking they are driving a girl to climax when really she is in pain, and can't bring herself to tell her enthusiastic partner to stop!
So, maybe your lover wants it stronger and sloppier. But the only way you can be sure about this is to ask. Now, a broader issue you two need to work out: while fantasies are healthy and role-playing is a good thing, asking you to imitate a past lover (male or female) is a bit, well, rude. Does she want to go back to him? Is she just trying to piss you off? To me, beyond the men vs. women, unclear vs. clear request, there is another issue to work out (by talking): the state of your relationship. I guess you were right to be offended, after all.
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