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Dear LL,
I am a forty five year old mother of two, married to a great man. However, recently I have found myself looking at and fantasizing about women. While I have always found women to be attractive, I never fooled around with one. Can it be possible that I am turning into a lesbian this late in life? .- HalfWayThere
Dear Maybe_Lesbo_Mommy,
We live in a culture in which you are labeled gay or straight, or bi (and some people think that is too unclear) and this label is the result of some innate genetic quality that at some age you "discover" but it is not the result of experimentation -it was always there, you just didn't know it. Now, this may work in many cases, and may be the case in the vast majority of men. Men regularly report in scientific studies that they knew their sexuality at an early age. And they rarely change back. But look at the same studies on women, and you will find that many women begin to make drastic changes later in life.
In other words, Maybe Lesbo, perhaps you ARE turning into a lesbian this late in life. Perhaps that subtle attraction that you felt for other woman has become full blown desire. Perhaps this is all a fantasy due to not feeling satisfied by your own marriage. Oh, perhaps, your just don't want cock any more, your crave cunt. A good way to test this out is to watch more lesbian porn and then think about it later. Do you place a man in your fantasies, or does it stay girl-on-girl? When you have sex with your husband, do you imagine that he is a woman?
Now, if you think you really are a lesbian, you should try this out with another woman. And in your case, because there are kids involved, I suggest having an affair. The worse thing you could do is walk in on your husband one day and proclaim that you are a lesbian and are leaving. If he is a great guy, you owe it to him and to yourself to do some research first. You don't want to break up a family just because you have a hunch you might like to carpet munch.
And if you do, does this mean that you should run off with the first lesbian who wants to make love to you? No, it means you need to have a nice long talk with hubby and ask him about his needs and fantasies. Perhaps you could indulge in your lesbian desires with him watching, or perhaps he has his own fantasies he wants to explore without you. So, before building up a huge drama in your head, it is important to find out what your real options are.
And remember, sometimes the sweetest discoveries are made when we think that we know all the tricks. Not to mention you will be able to fulfill a lot of lesbian MILF fantasies if you decide to open up to your new sexual orientation! And I've heard that women don't even know how good sex can be until they reach 36. So go for it!
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