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Dear Lesbo Launders,
Your advise has been enlightening to me and this is why I'd like to share some of my reservations today... I am not a lesbian yet and neither I know if this is my cup of tea... or if pussies are what I want in my mouth, so to speak. Excuse my silliness but... is there a school for lesbian lessons or older lesbian women that could help me understand myself better before taking the plunge? The New One.- Tampa, FL.
Dear New And Scared,
There is no such school that I know of, other than books, porn and experience. While porn often is more fantasy than reality, I recommend looking at lesbian porn not only for some practical pointers (like how to use a large strap-on or how to suck on a young girl's breasts) but also to give yourself a very practical test: do you get off watching it? Do you feel the desire to touch yourself? When you touch yourself, are you surprised by how fast you cum, faster than normal? Because if you do, you have all the desire and only lack experience.
And experience is not that hard to get. Be honest with your partner and tell her that you are new at the game and you need a teacher. No Sapphic girl worth her strap-on or glass dildo will turn down that offer. Now, I don't recommend picking a lesbian lover just for her experience level: starting out, you should pick someone who really turns you on, because if you are not 100% attracted to the person you will fill your head with self-doubts when you start to make love.
Get a book on lesbian lovemaking, not a clinical one but a romantic one, and look at it together and try out what interests you. Take it slow at first, and don't feel like you need to rush into oral or dildo-sex. Take the first few sessions to get acquainted with the female body. One of many advantages that women have over men is that they are not as anxious and are willing to take it slow with a new girl.
There is one very important difference between the female and male body that you need to be aware of before you embark on pussy licking: men generally respond to the same types of sexual stimulation (show me a man who doesn't like a blow job and I'll show you a ten-headed snake) women tend to vary a lot. I LOVE getting my ears kissed; my girlfriend HATES it. You need to take every pussy as a completely new experience and ask your lover what she likes.
Another thing that is less defined is the role of "who is in charge". With lesbians this can be switched during lovemaking or it can be a more stable choice made by a couple. You should try both roles to see which one you are more comfortable with. Also, if at first you feel uncomfortable with a woman it may be because of the role you are in, not because of the lesbian sex per se. You can prepare yourself for the plunge but you need to jump in the deep end to learn how to swim in the sea of self discovery. Good licking!
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