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Dear Lesbo Launders,
after watching some hot lesbian porn, I really want to try using a dildo harness, and my partner does too! But how on earth do I use one of those things? I live in Kansas, so running out to my local lesbian sex store is out of the question. . . –Over the rainbow
Dear Over the rainbow,
there is nothing more exciting than your first time using a strap-on! But I have provided you with a few tips so that it isn't any more awkward than necessary. Wearing a strap-on has nothing to do with wanting to be a man, but it does mean that you have to become used to having and using a "penis". For sex with a strap-on to be mind blowing, you need to treat the dildo as an extension of your body.
There are many advantages to using a strap-on as opposed to just using the old dildo-guided by-hand method. Strap-ons free the hands, allowing them to be used to touch in all sorts of other sensual ways. Strap-ons allow you to use your hips and therefore have greater leverage, providing for a more intense experience. And as an added bonus, the feel of wearing a harness can get you off even sans dildo.
Harnesses come in two basic flavors: jock-strap style and thong style. As you'd imagine, the thong-style harness has a strap that goes between your legs, which may be great for you or not. The harness has a triangular or rectangular front piece that sits over a woman's vulva s, and the front piece has a special opening or O-ring through which you can slip a special dildo with a flared, flat-bottom base. This gives women an artificial penis right where one should hang.
Another thing you'll want to consider is the material of the harness straps. Each has a different feel. Possibilities include nylon, leather, and even soft PVC. Nylon can be popped into a washing machine, as long as you remove any non-nylon parts, such as the front pad, while PVC can be wiped off with a damp cloth. And although leather requires more care, some people prefer its look and feel.
To put on a harness, simply slip the dildo into the O-ring, step into the harness and adjust the straps for a comfortable but snug fit. If, after adjusting, there's a lot of excess strap, you can always trim it down. With nylon straps, singe the ends carefully with a lighted match to prevent fraying.
Some strap-on dildos stick straight out. Others curve. Curved models provide more variety. Depending how they are positioned in the front piece, they can curve up, down or to the side. Each position provides different erotic stimulation.
Wielding a strap-on takes practice; you may feel very self-conscious the first time you look in the mirror and see a dildo bobbing between your legs. You can even masturbate while wearing your new strap-on, with dildo in hand, push the base against your mons, thrust with your hips.
Use plenty of water-based lube and a condom for easy clean-up. Penetrate your partner with fingers before entering her with the strap-on. All of this goes double if you're penetrating her anally. And don't forget that wearing a strapon can be as pleasurable as being fucked by one—your partner should try giving you "oral sex" which can actually get you off by pressuring your genitals.
And send me the pics! –Lesbo Launders
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