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Dear LL,
I just fell in love with
the cutest college girl. She loves eating me out,
and is wild in bed. She makes me feel young again! The only problem is that she
is still in the closet. I don't want to rush her, but I don't like that she
leads a double life. She even has a 'boyfriend" who she claims is just for show.
. . -closeted clit
Dear Closeted
Clit,
Yikes! You, my Sapphic Sister are between a rock and a
hard place! On the one hand you got a hot little lesbian who drives you wild
in bed. You make me so jealous just describing her to me! Is she in a sorority?
Do they have pillow fights where the feathers coat their hot, tanned bodies? Do
they film them? Can they send me the movies?
(10 minutes later) OK, now that
I have gotten myself off thinking about your college sweetheart, I want to talk
about the problems that this girl has. Mainly, that 1) she is not so young that
her fears of pissing of her parents are justified. She is in college for Christ
sake! 2) she is so uncomfortable that she is 'dating" a boy to cover up her true
self.
Will her parents toss her out on her ass if she comes out of the
closet? Will she loose her friends? Does she have plans to tell people, or does
she plan to live a lie forever?
Now, you shouldn't go out with someone who is
closeted, its kind of like going out with someone who is married. OK at first,
but then you get tired of sneaking around like you are doing something wrong
(which you aren't!). Furthermore, this makes it very clear that you two are on
different wavelengths. This more than anything spells dome further down the
road. BUT she is young and hot. My advice to you is to look at this less as love
or as a relationship and more as a love affair, that will probably end badly.
But well, she is a hot college co-ed. Sometimes the heartache
is worth it! To keep yourself safe tell her that you will not date her
exclusively or be in a "relationship" with her until she comes out. Don't
pressure her anymore, let her see the consequences of her actions on her own.
And one thing that you can do as an older lesbian is introduce her to other
lesbians and let her see that everyone goes through a painful coming out process
(unless you grew up in San Francisco) and survives. This is what makes us
stronger, better people. Start showing her that life after coming out only gets
better.
Now, you need to find the balance between helping her (which
being the older woman in the relationship you have an obligation to do) and
protecting yourself. Remember, for the young, relationships can be much more
temporary. Even though she needs to accept herself and has a long road ahead of
her, I fear more for your emotional well-being. Don't let yourself fall to hard
for this girl. In spite of her being a college girl who wears white
panties. Um, gotta go!
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